Throughout my late twenties and beyond, I searched for “The One.” I went on dates, socialized at parties, met men in bars, and even on the bus. But nothing ever seemed to stick. I would think, “He’s just not The One.”
It wasn’t until I turned fifty that I finally married my beloved. Was he “The One”? Perhaps not, but my attitude had changed, and it played in my favor.
I know many people like me – intelligent, attractive, educated, with a great sense of humor – who can’t seem to find “The One.” But I’ve discovered a secret to finding true love.
The key is to change the direction of the lens. Instead of looking for the perfect match, look at why someone who wants a relationship wouldn’t choose you.
Identify your limitations and work on them with love. Become more interested in the other person, listen better, and appreciate different opinions and beliefs even if you disagree with them. Be flexible and forgiving; avoid yelling or rushing the process of courting.
There’s no such thing as a “Perfect Match.” You have to do the work and show genuine interest in others so that they feel seen and heard. Respect the other person’s rhythm and enjoy their company. If you carry this mindset, you’ll be in a relationship, and together, you’ll form “The Perfect Couple.”